Repeat After Me: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

A Grace Full Life

First published October 15th, 2018

When I was a first-time new mommy, I thought I had to breastfeed in order to be a good mom. I read all the books, took all the vitamins, did everything I was supposed to in pregnancy to help create this new little life that I could not wait to meet.

So after she was born, I decided that I was going to breastfeed her no matter how hard because I felt like it was the only way to feed her and that if I didn’t do it, I would be failing her as a parent.

No one said new moms are perfect. Or old moms for that matter. 

It was after a week of trying to nurse, having swollen and cracked nipples, and getting maybe 10 hours of sleep in one week, all while recovering from the first major surgery I’d ever had, that I…

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10 thoughts on “Repeat After Me: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish”

  1. I’ve pretty much been on a 2 month social media break and I am loving it. Even just the few times I HAVE to pop on to sign up with a blogging group for crafty link ups or stuff like that I try so hard to bypass my newsfeed area as I just don’t want to hear anymore from anyone.

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    1. I hear you on that. When the quarantine started in March, I took a break from Twitter because that’s where I couldn’t avoid Covid updates. It was the best thing I did for my sanity.


  2. I wish I had your doctor. It was six months before I started formula feeding and it literally saved my life. I had terrible postpartum depression, but was not taking antidepressants (despite desperately needing them) because we thought baby had a heart condition that made it unsafe to take medication and breastfeed. I still don’t understand how NO ONE took me aside and said, um, DUH stop breastfeeding and take the damn medication. I was too brain fogged and exhausted to even think of that. I can’t look back on those six months and not feel cheated. I’m so glad you had a doctor who saw what you needed so you could take care of yourself!

    I love some of your suggestions for self-care. Knitting is probably my big one. It’s meditative. I get stabby if I go to long without it.

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    1. Oh Katie! I am so sorry! I remember feeling so depressed the first two weeks of Anna’s life and thinking, “how do people say they LOVE this? It’s horrible!”. I cannot imagine suffering for six months. That must have felt like an eternity. So much love to you. The good news is that because you survived that, you can share that with others (including your daughter if/when she has a child) to be a beacon. I was a post partum doula for a couple years in my thirties and I would share my story with new moms who were struggling. They felt like they had to be these superheroes and I said to them, “you showed up for the job, you’re already winning”. ❤️


  3. I love your tips and I’m pretty good at self-care, that being said I certainly would love to have a massage ASAP! But. I think I’ll postpone it a bit longer. I was Pinning things today to inspire some creativity and I’m snoozing so many of my FB friends, that I should probably just take a complete FB break. *sigh*

    Also, I wasn’t able to breastfeed either of my girls…it was physically painful and of course, it was emotionally painful for a bit too.

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