So the Universal things continue to happen, but I also have poop sandwich weeks, in case you think I’m always happy and rainbows, which would be so annoying, wouldn’t it?
Someone who is always happy even when the rest of the world is imploding? Even if I did, I wouldn’t tell you because it would be unkind. But I had a bad week last week and felt compelled to share it with you. Nothing major, but enough to add another massive turd to this year’s sesspool.
The good news is that I was able to find something positive in every day, which kept me from going insane and allowed me to persevere. Old Kari would have been devastated, to say the least. This Kari was relieved to begin another week with no obvious mental scars from the previous week.
So the first of November began with a bang, as I awoke at 2:30 a.m. with a migraine. If you recall, it was also Daylight Savings Time. To cut a long story short, I’m out of my “rescue” medication (sumatriptan injectable), which is refilled on the first of the month.
The good news is that my migraine intensity has significantly diminished since summer.
The bad news is that my migraine frequency has stayed consistent, if not increased.
Right now, I’m not reading too much into it. My doctor is in charge of it, and I gladly hand it over to him. Contrary to popular belief, I am not in charge of that problem. I used to lie awake for hours worrying about it, only to realize that I wasn’t getting paid six figures to figure it out. Then I’d get another migraine from not sleeping because I was worried about it.
But on this night, I awoke, took the last of my rescue medication, fell back asleep, and awoke at 7 a.m., which was actually 6 a.m. (fucking 2020 will never end), to vent to my husband.
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I’ve been doing some spiritual homework lately, and I’ve realized that fear is my biggest obstacle in life. I just made this discovery on my own last week.
Fear has been my motivator for as long as I can remember. Fear has been my plus one, shotgun, maid of honor, and best friend. It has been a part of every single decision I have ever made, as far as I can remember. It has total control over my life, every thought, and every moment, and it is extremely toxic.
I need to ditch that “friend.”
However, that “friend” doesn’t seem to get the hint.
On November 1st, I saw a tweet from a woman who said that saying the words rabbit, rabbit, rabbit on the first of the month brings good luck.
While I am not particularly superstitious, I am willing to try anything to make this year better. So I said it to no one…
RABBIT
RABBIT
RABBIT
Soon after, I remembered reading an article (also on Twitter) the day before about new literary agents to seek if you had recently finished writing a book.
I saw a picture of a bubbly blonde literary agent who is interested in non-fiction books in the article and immediately liked her, but what really drew me in was the fact that she has pet rabbits.
THREE of them.
😊
This rabbit revelation compelled me to contact her right away, but first I needed to write a query letter. I hadn’t written one yet, and I wasn’t motivated because my friend was still working on my book’s editing. So this shifted my gears and prompted me to write a query letter.
On a day when I was recovering from a migraine.
But I was so excited! THIS IS A SIGN FROM THE UNIVERSE! I was sure of it!
After I was finished, I went to email it to her.
When I clicked on the submission form, I saw this note:
“Sorry, I am no longer accepting queries until December 2020.”
My former self might have been enraged. I believe I would’ve sobbed right in front of the computer. I’m sure I would have said a few snide remarks. I would have smashed my fists. I might have given up and said, “Why does this always happen to me?”
But this time, I laughed.
LAUGHED!
CAN YOU EVEN IMAGINE?
“It’s just not meant to be,” I muttered to myself.
I’m in love with this version of myself.
I’m still nervous, and I know it will take time for me to learn to trust more. To have less fear of everything. But I had to share it with you because you’ve been such an important part of this journey and I thought you’d enjoy it.
This felt more like a blog post than some of the other things I’ve been sharing, and given the stress of the week, it seemed like a fun thing to share.
But guess what? I’ve written a query letter!
Onward.
A Grace Full Life 
Oh I always say “rabbit, rabbit, rabbit” on the first day of the month. I’ve no idea if it helps me have a better month, but it does remind me that it’s the first day of the month and I need to clean the coffeemaker. Because that’s what I do on the first day of the month, I clean the coffeemaker. My habits are idiosyncratic, my goals are small
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How funny! I had never heard of this until a few days ago!
I love that it reminds you to do that. Now I will always think of you in this manner. I may do this as my routine now too. ❤️
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This is quite possibly one of the best comments I’ve ever read.
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That is SO funny that this woman has pet rabbits. What the what? i have a hilarious story about a lady who was going to embroider a dress I was making for Mini for Irish dancing. She had pet rabbits. Like A BUNCH OF THEM. And they ran free in her home. Outside of the zoo, I have never smelled anything so awful. How could she live like that? I didn’t know and I brought my kids there with me and they were little. They couldn’t stop holding their noses and saying: “Eww, what’s that smell?” Super embarrassing.
I say having the query letter done is a feat all on its own. December is NOT that far off (that is a thought that makes me sad, I prefer our current 60 degree temps).
That universe book is kicking ass in the ‘let me help you figure things out’ department. Pretty awesome.
I got all mixed up with the time change and for a bit I was thinking we were losing an hour. I was super happy to have that extra hour. By noon I had done so much, I felt super accomplished.
Hope your migraines become less common. Sounds awful.
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Omg how awful! That means they pooped EVERYWHERE. Gah.
Yes! It’s only a few weeks away and what I didn’t mention in the post is that on Election Day, I found another literary agent and I DID send her my query letter! So I sent my first one! My first of many, I’m sure but it was exciting nonetheless.
I am also loving this weather too. I don’t want it to end. 🍁🌈
That book has been such a God-send.
We don’t need an extra hour of this year, that’s for sure. 😂
Thank you, friend.
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I heard about rabbit rabbit rabbit from Sarah Jessica Parker of all people.
December 2020 isn’t that far away. And you have query letter. I’m glad new Kari can hit a bump and laugh.
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Really?? I can’t believe I have never heard of this!
It really isn’t. I will definitely try again. And you’re exactly right, it’s just a bump. 😘
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Your writing getting better and better Kari❤️
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Thank you so much! ❤️😘
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Yay for you for rolling with the punches and getting your letter out of the way… plus I read up above that you already sent it off to another agent and that is fantastic!
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YES! I was looking for the link to the article and found another agent who looked like a great fit so I sent her an email! So I hope I get to hear back from her because she sounded like she and I would really get along. I want to not only find someone who can help me make my book a reality but also someone who “gets” it as well. ❤️
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I always thought it was Rabbit, Rabbit. It’s three rabbits? Tres? A trio? A Menae a trois?
I’ve been doing it all wrong.
I’m loving all your universal signs and the fact that YOU ARE paying attention to them. I’m also loving this new Kari because I think she is loving herself much more.
December 2020 is NOT that far away; 27 days my friend.
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Tres Rabbit! But I had never heard of it until a few days ago!
Try it and see what kind of luck you have this month!
Yes, friend! I can’t wait to see all of the new adventures and opportunities that come along from these discoveries.
27 days! ❤️
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Fear can be paralyzing and force you to live an entirely different life. Bravo for trying to put it aside and move forward!
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Thank you, my new blog friend! It has been so paralyzing. And there are days it still is but I know that I am a work in progress. ❤️
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One step at a time. Realizing it is half the battle won!
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Yes!
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I’d never heard of Rabbit Rabbit Rabbit until last year, I think. But here’s the deal, ever since I heard about it, I’ve never once remembered it early enough to have those be the first words out of my mouth on the first day of the month. Oh well, there’s always next month.
I love that you are doing all this work, seeing the rewards and sharing them. It’s very motivating.
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That is exactly what I fear will happen, especially with my menopause brain! I’ll surely remember it…on the 2nd of each month. 😂
Thank you. It has been a fun journey and I hope it keeps me motivated as well!
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How have I lived this long without ever hearing about this rabbit thing that apparently (by the looks of your comments) so many people know about?
Perhaps because I, too, have been too busy with our mutual friend Fear. She’s kind of a bitch, isn’t she? I know that sometimes she’s kept me from doing really stupid things, but she’s also sometimes pushed me into doing really stupid things. I think the problem is that she’s kind of like those mean junior high girls–the ones who seem like they know so much more than you and who intimidate you. She makes you uncomfortable, which you don’t like, so you don’t spend too much time looking closely at her or at why you feel the way you do around her. But then there she is, standing next to you in the bathroom while you’re washing your hands, putting on some Lipsmacker gloss and tossing an off-hand comment about something that you can’t stop obsessing about for the rest of the day. And then you don’t do some thing you would’ve otherwise done–tried out for the play, said “hi” to that person you’d like to know better, spoken up in class. It’s way past time for us to look Fear in the face, consider what she says but not give it too much weight. Spend more time hanging out with some other girls–Faith, Joy, and Hope, for starters. 🙂
(I’m glad you’re feeling so much better. I am, too, in spite of some hard things lately.)
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That’s what I said!
Such a bitch. It’s going to take me a while to get over this friendship. It’s a a hard one to get over. But at least I can realize how toxic it is and that is a good first step.
I’m glad you’re feeling better too. 😘
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It’s three rabbits? I had always heard “rabbit, rabbit” on the first of every month! Dang, those little fluff balls know how to multiply! Regardless, rabbits are cute. If not smelly. We had a pet bunny at one point.
I hear you about the fear. That’s the root of anxiety. I’m always working on that (and myself), too. So yes, celebrate every little step and victory that you can. Being human is always a work in progress, isn’t it?
xoxo
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Someone else thought it was only two rabbits too! But like you said, they do multiply…😂
It truly is a work in progress being human. The more we accept that, the better off we are. ❤️😘
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I have never heard of rabbit, rabbit, rabbit before. But I love that the universal pay off was so quick for you! Me and rabbits have a weird relationship. I don’t know if it’s because of Roger Rabbit, or Bugs Bunny, my childhood best friend’s rabbit, or my college roommate’s rabbit who ate through my yoga mat (also, now I’m not sure if my childhood friend really did have a rabbit). If I had to define my relationship with rabbits, I’d say it was complicated. Does the good luck only work if you say it on the first of the month?
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Yes, according to the myth or legend or whatever it’s called, you have to say it on the first day of the month. The cool thing is that this comment is written on Friday the 13th. 13 is also good luck for us because Anna was born on a 13th day.
You’ve experienced a lot of rabbits in your lifetime. I have not. Maybe that is good luck?
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