I’m reading Mark Nepo’s “The Book of Awakening” right now, and these were his words to me this morning (I like to think the author is speaking directly to me):
From the agonies of kindergarten, when we first were teased or made fun of in the midst of all our innocence, we all have struggled in one way or another with hiding what is obvious about us.
No one plans this. It is not a conspiracy, but rather an inevitable and hurtful passage from knowing only ourselves to knowing the world. The tragedy is that many of us never talk about it, or never get told that our “green hair” is beautiful, or that we don’t need to hide, no matter what anyone says on the way to lunch. And so, we often conclude that to know the world we must hide ourselves.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. It is an ancient, unspoken fact of being that blackmail is only possible if we believe that we have something to hide. The inner corollary of this is that worthless feelings arise when we believe, however briefly, that who we are is not enough.
I discovered TikTok last month. I love it. It makes me laugh, and on occasion, it makes me cry.
So I came upon a TikTok from a woman who inspired the podcast I’m sharing today. She tells about how, at 65, she feels invisible most of the time. Her invisibility, however, began when she was 50 years old.
Is this something that any of you can relate to?
In lieu of a post, I’m sharing a podcast about invisibility during perimenopause. I also talk about two symptoms I had throughout perimenopause that aren’t typically discussed in books or doctor’s visits: brain fog and loss of motivation.
Listen in and as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments once you’ve finished.