I’ve been reading Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty and I am enjoying it. Over the last few months, I’ve had the best luck with library books. My soul homework hasn’t let me down, that’s for sure.
In Jay’s book, he discusses the concept of monk mind vs. monkey mind. If you’re utilizing your monkey mind, for example, you’re overwhelmed by everything. But if you apply your monk mind, you will be focused on the root of it all.
If your monkey mind is in control, you complain, compare and criticize. When you channel your monk mind, on the other hand, you are compassionate, caring, and collaborative.
Are you getting what Jay is throwing down?
So I decided to do my own experiment and keep track of my complaints, criticisms, and comparisons for a week on my phone.
Let me lay the groundwork of what my week looked like before I expose myself.
EXPOSE MY SOUL. Geez.
On this particular week, I was undergoing a procedure to remove a polyp from the lining of my uterus. To the men in the room, this is just another wonderful “thing” about being a woman. Will someone, for the love of GOD, just take out my uterus already??
Oh wait, was that a complaint? CHECK.
I am so gonna flunk this experiment.
Complaint #2– I was bitching to myself about how slow my old computer was loading so I could download old photographs.
It’s almost as if my old computer knows I betrayed her. Ohhhhhh.
Complaint #3– My husband’s snoring. There were numerous entries this week, but I didn’t count them all because I didn’t want to see on a screen how uncaring of a wife I am.
Complaint #4 and Comparison #1-I complained loudly to anyone who’d listen about how messy our pantry was. Then I compared it to a frat house.
This is ridiculous because I’ve never been inside a frat house and hence, have no context, except for the movie Animal House. Second, I’d like credit for getting in a complaint AND a comparison.
What? It’s not a contest? Oh wait, I’m doing this all wrong…
Comparison #2– (it’s about to get philosophical) I compared myself to others in terms of how I am not as negative as they are. However, the fact that I am making that comparison demonstrates that I am still negative.
Deep thoughts by Kari.
Complaint #5– I bitched to Mike about how the weeds are so out of control. By the NATURE PATH.
I need to defend myself a bit here. Biscuits was chewing every weed we encountered on a walk, and one of them had some black shit in it, and I was like, HOLY HELL DOG, HOW DO YOU FIND BLACK SHIT WEEDS?
Not THAT kind of weed, Pexels. This kind of weed:
If I had weed weed, I wouldn’t have been complaining so much last week.
Complaint #6– I complained to no one about my email loading too slow on my new computer. Do you see a reoccurring theme here? No amount of soul homework will help me.
Criticism #1– Mike wanted to purchase a lime green polo shirt at a thrift store we were shopping at. He held it up and asked my opinion. I told him to look at the shirt he was wearing. Lime green polo. Is that a criticism or me lovingly teasing him? I plan to tell the story on a podcast as it’s better in the telling than in the writing. (I don’t come out well in either)
I’m sure there’s more, but I got caught up in my procedure and recovery and other stuff that I’ll have to talk about in a podcast or something because it’s too much to write about.
All kidding aside, I’m truly enjoying this book. If you’re looking for something to help you clear the cobwebs from your thought process, this is good. It’s already got me questioning myself and making changes.
Which of the three c’s is your biggest weakness: criticizing, complaining, or comparing?