80's Names| My Name is on the List| Grieving – A Grace Full Life
When I asked a friend a few months back whether she’d gotten pubic hair yet, she stared at me as if I’d farted. After that, she never talked to me again. I suppose it means she HAD gotten hair down there.
Why is it wrong to ask my friend in private about hair growing on her vagina if we just watched a movie about vaginas in public? After seeing “the movie”, I felt like it was okay to talk about it. But I guess outside of “the movie” it isn’t okay, it’s shameful.
Each of my chapters begins with a story from my past that relates to the topic of the chapter. I’ll share those with you all because it’s only a fragment, but the rest of the chapter would take up too much room here.
My objective is to get my book into the hands of as many people as possible. As a result, the book’s text is now available at the top of the blog each week. There is a drop down option where it says Menopause at the top, and if you click on it, you will be able to read each chapter of the book in print. Each week, a new chapter will be posted.
This week, I’m going through the fundamentals of perimenopause, including what it is and isn’t, as well as where you can get additional information, misconceptions, and answers to the questions I presented in chapter one.
I noted on the episode that my book has an Appendix with a list of reliable websites for getting medical information. Instead of making you wait until the end of the book, I’m providing you with that link now.
A Grace Full Life 
Hello – I’m so interested in your book, and I was wondering if you had thought of maybe charging something for the digital copy of it? Maybe you are not yet at that point of wanting to release it like that. I’m so grateful you’ve written this and I am so excited to read it, but I kind of hate reading it for free when you worked so hard on it?
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You’re incredibly nice. I’m fine with giving it away for free. If it’s intended to be published in some manner, I believe it will be. But for the time being, I’m convinced that I want this out there for women to read so that they don’t feel so alone. But hearing you say this makes me so happy. Today you made me feel incredibly wealthy. I appreciate you. 🙂
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So much good information here Kari; loving it so far!
Fun fact: on the day of the ‘movie’ or talk, I was absent. Was it fourth grade? Fifth? anyhoo, I missed it all but when I was back in school my teacher gave me the pamphlet/book that went with the movie/talk.
You know how you hang onto weird and random things? Well, I still have that pamphlet. Did I think I would need the information again? Who knows! But if anyone has questions, I have the pamphlet!
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I’m thrilled you’re enjoying it thus far!
Suz, I LOVE the fact that you still have the pamphlet!! Would you mind emailing me a couple pictures of that pamphlet to include in one of the next podcast posts for fun??
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I’ll have to do a search and rescue; I have many boxes of nostalgia. Sadly, they are not that organized. But I’ll try to look soon!
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No worries! 🙂
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I feel the same way as Stacey! I keep thinking you shouldn’t be sharing it for free after you’ve worked so long and hard on your book.
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You two are wonderful. But, as I previously stated to Stacey, I am content to provide it for free. I have a feeling the Universe is on my side. 🙂
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Thanks for the information about reliable health information. I’ve bookmarked it for future reference. I liked last week’s book cover better although this one isn’t bad, just doesn’t grab me.
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You’re welcome!
I agree with you about the cover. I think the butterfly cover is my favorite.
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Perhaps your friend took it to be a come on of sorts…it’s definitely an awkward thing to say.
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It was absolutely an awkward thing to say, but I wasn’t asking her out on a date. She was probably embarrassed since she didn’t have open talks about those topics with her friends (or parents). Something that a lot of us didn’t have back then.
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I know you weren’t doing that, but you said she stopped talking to you..you never know what people are thinking
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At the time, we were rather young and immature (hence my question). I honestly don’t believe she did since she wouldn’t have realized what a “come on” looked like at the time.
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Ah gotcha
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I can’t remember if we had a movie or not – I’m sure we had something, I remember a class about Our Changing Bodies. I still have a book though, called Girl Talk: All The Stuff Your Sister Never Told You. I don’t know why I still have that book!
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Our Changing Bodies is a title that sounds quite familiar… I’m curious whether there was a standard issue movie or brochure that all schools distributed.
I can totally understand why you still have that book…it was a major event in our life!
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This is really good information, Kari and will be so helpful to many women. I had a hysterectomy when I was 46. The surgeon left one ovary so that I wouldn’t be thrust immediately into menopause.
My perimenopause journey wasn’t as severe as yours, but I still went through a lot (physical changes and mental…especially the anxiety), with no information and help. Thank you for all your research and sharing your experiences and learning with all of us.
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Thank you for saying this, Melanie. This is exactly my motivation. Sometimes we just don’t know where to turn or have people in our lives to turn to. That doesn’t imply the people or locations in our lives are bad; it just means they cannot meet us where we are.
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