i don’t want to lose track of the random thoughts swirling in my mind, so i’ve been jotting them down in the notes section of my phone. i’m sharing them in the hope that they resonate with you, too.
if this is your first visit, welcome! you can find the other parts of this series right here.
1- as someone who grew up in rural america in the ’80s, cow tipping was definitely a thing.
2- i just learned that some restaurants put pancake batter in their omelets to make them fluffier. word of warning for anyone on a gluten-free or low-carb diet.
3- do any of you remember orange triaminic and how weirdly tasty it was?
4- i once painted all of our baseboards while ella was at preschool. man, i miss having that kind of energy.
5- i see a lot of authors and influencers recycling phrases, and it’s frustrating. i recently saw a poet/writer on instagram—who i used to like—use this quote (as his own): “you have no real say about the length of your life, but you do have a say about its depth.” it sounds profound, but it’s been used before.
6- i still haven’t picked anything for my 100 days project. my motivation level is pretty low right now. just wanted to share that here—mostly to be transparent.
i think it’s a mix of things—nothing major, just some low creative energy and a brain that seems more interested in wandering than focusing. i’m not feeling bad, just… not super driven at the moment.
anyone else in that kind of space? where you’re not struggling exactly, just not quite clicking into gear?

7- reading changed for me when i realized i didn’t need to love an entire book—if i took away even one amazing message, it was worth my time. would i read it again? no. but if i got one really good takeaway, it was still worth it.
8- speaking of books, i think about all the good books i’ve probably missed because i read someone’s bad goodreads review. it’s crazy how easily others’ opinions can steer me away from something that might have been exactly what i needed.
9- the cast of the breakfast club reunited last month. i never thought i’d see that happen, and i definitely didn’t expect judd nelson to reappear with them. two words: molluscum contagiosum.
10- one of my favorite songs of all time is a relatively unknown track called heaven help me by deon estus from 1989. he was the bassist for wham, and george michael provided backup vocals on this song.
do any of you remember it?
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I go through phases like you are. I can get stuck surfing the internet, having my mind wander an not focusing on my creative project. I think photography has helped me. I work by a window and when I see a bird or creature, I grab my camera. Now I’m working on learning Photoshop.
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Yes to phases. I feel like yoga is in a different phase for me than it was in the beginning. It’s not over—it just isn’t my focus right now. I’m focusing on different things… maybe too many different things.
I love that you have photography. Your photos are so beautiful. 💜
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Thank you so much. Yes, I agree with your idea of phases. I had years where writing was my main focus. At this moment, it’s photography because I’m excited to learn something new.
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It’s fun to learn something new!
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It’s inspirational to me rather than doing what I’ve done since college!
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Definitely!
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Not struggling exactly but not kicking into gear. Yeah. Wishing I had baseboard painting energy. Yeah. I remember seeing “Breakfast Club” in a movie theater, and I agree with all of them that it would likely not be made today (at least not for a theatrical release), and that makes me feel a little sad. It’s weird how some people change so much physically as they age and others don’t. Emilio Estevez looks so much the same, and Anthony Michael Hall…does not. It’s feeling weird to be a human today. Or one who’s lived this long, anyway. Going to go to the library today and try to find a good book. Reading from a full-length print book every day for 100 days would be a good project for me. Which is also weird, because I used to be an avid reader of books. The idea that I’d need some kind of external motivator to read every day would have astonished and horrified 1985 Rita.
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“Baseboard painting energy” is how I’m going to refer to pre-menopause me from now on. 😂
That makes me sad too, Rita. I was really afraid they were getting together to announce a sequel. I don’t know why I feel this way, considering the screenplay—but still.
Emilio looks so good. Anthony looks like a totally different person. Judd looks like a college professor. The girls look amazing.
I read every day, so that wouldn’t be a new project. But when I say I read every day, I mean I read like someone with undiagnosed ADD. I can only sit still and read for two chapters at a time. I blame social media for some of this.
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I do everything now like someone with undiagnosed ADD, and I remember when I wasn’t like that. Back when I had baseboard painting energy. I’m feeling like I want to take the summer off from the world. Just read books, and write for myself, and have conversations with people who are in the same physical spaces I am. (But also with people like you, who I can only talk with this way.) I went to the library. Let’s see how I do with reading for 5 minutes, and then maybe I’ll think about the whole summer. My son can (and does) sit and read for hours, just like I used to. It makes me think I did some things right as his parent.
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I love that your son can sit and read for hours. I want to do that too. My addled brain won’t let me. It drives me crazy when people say, “Wow, I wish I could do that,” in a tone that makes it sound like they don’t have time because they have more important, pressing things to do. I could do those things too, Susan, I just don’t want to. I’d rather read a book all day.
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This made me LOL. I love me a little Kari with a side of snark. My son is creating a life that’s not conventional, and so he has time to read. As has been true since the day he came into this world, I learn so much from him.
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I’m glad I could make you laugh.
I love that for your son. And I love that you are learning from him. 😘💜
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I understand about not strugglilng but not kicking into gear. I hope you can enjoy basking in the glow that you’ve inspired others like me, and I think you’ll know when the right project is ready for you. I’d heard about cow tipping, but never witnessed it myself. I sure hope I never do! I have never tasted orange triaminic and I also hadn’t ever heard Heaven Help Me. Where have I been?
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I am completely basking in the glow! I love that you and Nicole are doing your own 100 Days!
I sure hope you don’t either! I told Joanne that I never did any tipping—I was too afraid, and honestly, I love cows too much to even want to tip them!
LOL—well, I do happen to love random songs, so you were exactly where you were supposed to be. 😘💜
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I don’t remember orange Triaminic, but I was addicted to Flintstone’s chewable vitamins. Those things were dangerously close to candy IMO!
I didn’t know Wham! even had a bassist. The Deon Estus track sounds slightly familiar (but maybe that’s just because George Michael figures so prominently). It’s got that mellow smooth jazz/quiet storm vibe that was so popular in the late ’80s thanks to Kenny G. It’s not bad!
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I loved Flintstones vitamins! I’m pretty sure I snuck extra ones more than once—I probably thought the more I took, the healthier I’d be. It’s honestly a miracle any of us made it through childhood. 😅
I didn’t know that until I looked it up either! I was making a playlist and added it, which led me down a rabbit hole about Deon Estus—who he was and how he got George Michael to sing on his song.
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Yes! I am definitely in the struggling to be motivated phase and yet can’t pinpoint why. I’m not depressed just feeling rather blah about anything on my to do list– fun or otherwise. I have lots of friends that went cow tipping; but I never did. I’m not a fan of muddy fields or big smelly animals and I would have been waaay to afraid to get caught. I was definitely the conscientious rule follower.
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I keep asking myself, “Am I depressed? What am I feeling? WHY can’t I just go out and garden? I used to love this!” I just don’t want to do certain things like I used to, and I’m trying to figure out what’s going on.
I never cow-tipped, but I definitely went along with others who wanted to. Now, no cow was tipped in my presence—but I’ve heard rumors that cows were, in fact, tipped during my high school days. Maybe it was all a conspiracy theory. I was always too afraid to get caught anyway. 😅
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Maybe you need space to just be?
Constant productivity and projects are a society thing I think.
In nature, there are times of dormancy, times of growth, times of harvest, times of fallow.
Remember Sunday afternoon as a kid? Definitely a time of fallow. Maybe you’re in your Sunday afternoon phase?
Also – recycled phrases! Omg yes! Content makers like influencers have it rough. Gotta feed the beast without actually saying anything.
My favs are the old recycled exclamations but that’s bc I’m old. Do you remember Seriously? Seriously!
People, please 😉
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YES. Just be. I absolutely love the idea of a “Sunday afternoon phase,” Maddie. What a beautiful, grounding thought.
Saying something without saying anything—MY GOD, YES. You are a breath of fresh air this morning.
Seriously. 🤣
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I totally get what you’re saying about missing out on books bc of a bad review … movies too. It goes the other way, too, a good review and people jumping on it in agreement and then my expectations are too high and I think it’s so-so. I have to remind myself of this a lot as I still read reviews, but am much more discerning.
Thanks for update on where you are at w 100 day project. I have a lot going on so not in a hurry to do it … and still think it would be fun to start on same date … June 1 would take us to September 8 – fyi. And if suggesting to do at same time is too much pressure, just say so. No worries. I get it.🤗
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This is so true—we all bring such different opinions and life experiences to the table.
I’m still not giving up. Two of my friends are doing it too, which I love. I feel like I’m more productive in the colder months. I never used to be this way, but I kind of love that I am now.
I really love the idea of starting on the same date—it’s great motivation to stay the course. I have a new possible idea… maybe moving my blog over to Blogger (or another platform that’s easier for people to access). I just had the thought this morning after Rita mentioned she had trouble leaving a comment last week. I love connecting with all of you—that’s one of the biggest reasons I’m still writing here. So maybe this idea will keep me motivated. Also motivating- Blogger is FREE. 🤣
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Orange Triaminic was vile.
I didn’t know about The Breakfast Club Reunion. Might cue that up while making dinner. I just watched the ET short edit and am curious what else they spill.
As for ruts, I face them every day in both personal and professional settings. In the morning, I shush the inner critic and try and pour stuff out. Most of the times, it stays as a draft. Sometimes, it graduates to external sharing. Workwise, I rely on that critic and pick apart projects with the perspective of “Oh, that’s bad… How would I approach this?”
The battle in each focus state? Turning down external volumes: News, socials, texts, news — and an internal discourse that swirls around doubt.
Some days it is easier, but it is never easy.
Some days I fail to produce anything of import.
Some times that lack of momentum spans a gamut of days or weeks or months.
I think one of my traits that helps is a horrible memory — eventually I forget the failed attempts and lack of progress and just try something again.
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But what are your thoughts on Flintstones vitamins…?
YES! There was also a Ferris Bueller virtual reunion during lockdown—I believe it’s on YouTube.
“Turning down external volumes” is such solid advice. Lately, I’ve been trying to get off social media in the evenings. I want “input” (reading) at night and “output” (journaling) in the morning. Maybe this could be my 100 Days project! I keep finding ideas for my project, but I’m struggling with the motivation to actually begin.
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I LOOOOOOVED FIintstones, which is why my parents realized we should not have them on hand.
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🤣🤣
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my mom always bought the yellow triaminic– HORRIBLE– such an insult to the color yellow. as to books, i usually have the opposite reaction– people fawn all over a book, and when i read it, i’m like, “this book’s for shit!” … anyways, terrible allergy headache today so i have to skip out. xx, ren
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I never tried yellow Triaminic. Such an insult to the color yellow… oh Ren, that made me laugh.
I feel the same way about a lot of media! I don’t like what the mainstream likes — never have. I think that makes us unique. (And that’s a good thing.)
I understand — I’ve had migraines all week, allergy- and weather-related. Take care of yourself, my friend. Lots of love to you. 😘💜
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love right back at ya! <3
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Yes, I most certain DO remember orange Triaminic and how weird it tasted. In fact, just as I read that, I could actually recall the taste. There was something very “metallic” about the after-taste. Like I had just eaten a car fender.
And yes, I hear you about the recycling of phrases online and it’s annoying as all hell. It’s like we the people hear a phrase (such as “there’s a lot to unpack here”…) and then everyone says it over and over again. Or, (“at the end of the day”…).
I kinda of feel the same way right now, I’m not overly driven to be creative. And for me, it has to do with the seasons. I’m feel more creative when it’s colder (autumn and winter). As it gets warmer (and hotter), I feel less motivated. I’m already dreading summer – my least favorite season.
And OMG, I cannot believe you mentioned the movie, “The Breakfast Club” because I just rewatched that and forgot how great it was. And I LOVE the cast!
Fun and fabulous post, my friend! Have a grrrrreat week!
X
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I love that you can remember the taste! Car fender! OMG, that is making me laugh so hard.
YES. It’s so annoying. Especially when writers use it as their own. Ick.
I feel more creative when it’s colder too. Summer is my winter — does that make sense? While a lot of people hibernate in the winter, I do that in the summer. I don’t like extreme heat, and I don’t like being outside in it. So I get sluggish, don’t feel my best, and just don’t get much done in the summer.
I love that you just watched The Breakfast Club! I could watch it over and over. Such a great film.
Have a wonderful week, my dear friend. 😘💜
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Sadly, I don’t remember that song at all. And I had forgotten about giving my kids Triaminic. I did not hear about cow tipping until I was in college and I thought it was an urban legend type of thing! Until my husband was friends with someone in grad school who said he really did go cow tipping when he was in high school.
I’m swayed by reviews, so I understand. Not Goodreads, but Amazon reviews for sure. My husband reads Google restaurant reviews which irritates me. Just because one person had a bad experience with a meal or server doesn’t mean every meal served or employee is bad that works there.
I’ve seen bits and pieces of that Breakfast Club reunion. I can’t remember, but did you watch the Andrew McCarthy documentary, ‘Brat Pack’? I really enjoyed it.
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I went one night with friends, but since the farm was owned by a friend of mine, I didn’t feel comfortable participating. We all ended up feeling bad about it, so it never actually happened.
I’m totally swayed by Google restaurant reviews too. I hate that I am. It used to be Yelp, but then I got rid of the app. But I hate to admit it, I still use Google to help me make decisions. Though, if a place has mostly good reviews with just a few bad ones, I’ll still go.
I did watch the documentary! A lot of people hated it, and I don’t know why. It was fun to see so many of them again. I enjoyed it too.
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Re: number five. So probably you have heard (since you live on this planet) about the book sensation Let Them by Mel Robbins, but did you know that she stole the wording/ phrasing/ idea from a poet named Cassie Phillips, who went viral with the poem CALLED LET THEM on Instagram? It’s true. And I don’t know why more people aren’t talking about it. It would be one thing if Mel Robbins had collaborated, or offered financial compensation, or even ACKNOWLEDGED the poet as an inspiration, but no. Nothing of the sort. It boils my blood. Robbins has made who knows how much money on this, it’s a total sensation, and it’s plagiarized.
UGH!
Re: number eight. Do what I do, and totally forget you have goodreads until you read something you really love, look it up on goodreads, and then sit in awe that no one else seemed to love it at all. This happens to me constantly. A book I love will be a 2-3 star on GR, and a book I loathe will be a 5 star. You’d be shocked how often this happens! I don’t even know why I’m shocked anymore, honestly.
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I heard this!! As soon as I learned about it, I was like NOPE. There are others who’ve done this too — Glennon Doyle, Brené Brown, Rachel Hollis… and they keep writing books. It’s incredibly frustrating. Rachel Hollis has a new book now. I was at Barnes & Noble and said out loud, “Oh, so you support plagiarizers? Good to know.” It really boils my blood too.
This is perfect. PERFECT. And yes, this happens to me too. The ones I love always have lower ratings, and the ones I can’t stand get 5 stars. It’s not us, it’s them. 🤣
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I do remember that medicine, but not how it tasted. I do not remember that song. I don’t think I’ve ever heard it before. I know a few people who went cow tipping in high school. Given the fact that you know the area, you probably know it wasn’t really popular but some kids lived out in the sticks. Coach and I just had drinks on Friday and a couple of young women sat next to us. Tablets were close. One of them spoke loud. She used every catch phrase under the sun. Not the same exactly as the example you gave, but let’s just say I was glad that they were asking for their check right after we sat down.
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I love that there was cow tipping happening in the Chicago suburbs. That just cracks me up.
Ugh, though. That feels super cringey.
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The Breakfast Club cast. I want to see them all in something new. Not a Breakfast Club 2, but something updated to our time now. Ha. ha.
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YES. I agree 100 percent.
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I had no idea that some restaurants added pancake batter to their omelets! Gross! I just looked it up and some places add it to their scrambled eggs, as well. Thanks for this heads up: I’ll be sure to ask from now on. I’m not totally GF, but I minimize gluten as much as possible.
I never had Triaminic nor used it for my kids. All I remember is children’s Tylenol.
Flinstones vitamins…ha ha, I loved those when I was a kid. I think I snuck an extra here and there, too cuz they were like candy. Same with children’s Bayer aspirin (chewable) when I was a kid. They were tiny and orange flavored. Definitely snuck those sometimes as a kid, too.
100 Days Project…the other day it hit me that it would be cool to listen to one new song (any genre) a day! But honestly, like you, I am not feeling motivated by much lately. It would just be another thing to put on my to-do list, instead of being fun.
Book and movie reviews are awful. Everyone has a different opinion. Same with restaurants. Unless something is overwhelmingly awful, I’m game to at least try it.
Not familiar with the song, Heaven Help Me. I loved George Michael!
xoxo
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I feel like this is something that should definitely be notated on a menu for allergens. But you’re right — I’ll ask next time.
I loved Flintstone vitamins too — and Bayer Children’s Aspirin!
Ooh, I love this idea! I was thinking about something similar. I had a post I started in the fall of 2023… 100 favorite all-time songs. I think you even listened to that playlist! I thought I might finally finish it and write the post over 100 days. I have so many different ideas and absolutely no motivation to do anything with them. 🤣
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Never heard that song
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I thought it was relatively unknown, but I looked it up and it actually reached #5 on the Billboard chart in 1989.
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Fascinating
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I wanted that Triaminic even when I wasn’t sick!
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ME TOO! 🤣
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I just watched the Breakfast Club reunion and enjoyed every minute. Thanks for sharing! That movie is as good today as it was back then!
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I’m so glad you enjoyed it!
It really is a great movie — John Hughes was such a talented writer and director.
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You also inspired me to watch the movie again! It stands the test of time.
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Oh, I love that!! It really does.
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I don’t remember Triaminic, but I loved Benadryl. Weird cherry-ness.
An old phrase I will steal and share: my get up and go has got up and gone.
I see a lot of unattributed retreads of late as well. Nothing is ever really new. I think perhaps we didn’t see this as clearly prior to the exposure of everything and everyone via the interconnected world.
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I don’t remember Benadryl, but I’m sure it was just as yummy. 🤣
I love that one. My “get up and go” has definitely gotten up and went — I wish it would come visit!
This is such a good point, Michelle.
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I also think it helps when you write down things you want to remember so that you can refer to them later on. Now, I’m not sure if you’ll write things that come randomly to mind down on a paper notebook that you carry around in pockets or in a purse, but that’s where I’ll write them down if I do decide to write them down.
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That’s a great idea! Writing stuff down really helps me remember things and get my thoughts out. I usually use my phone, but having a little notebook sounds nice too — it’s different to write by hand sometimes. Thanks for the tip! Do you like writing things down on paper better?
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I’ll first answer your question at the end of item #10 in your blog post: No, I have not heard of “heaven help me”.
Now, to me, writing things down on paper and writing things down on the phone work the same for me. That is, in principle. But what actually happens is that when I look at how much screen time I’ve spent in total on my phone that is recorded in my phone, I’ll need to make sure that I don’t spend more screen time on my phone than I’m willing to accept. Which, in turn, means that I’m not going to do everything on my phone. I’ll also need to figure out whether I am someone who relies on my phone for anything and everything. Which I don’t think I am. But then I’ll need to put that into action and not do everything on my phone.
You and I both comment on an array of other bloggers’ blog posts, Ms. Writer McWriterson, and I’m sure that one — or more — of our fellow bloggers will discuss phone use and screen time in one of their blog posts in the future. Nevertheless, I only set rules for myself, and I absolutely have no interest whatsoever in telling you or anyone else how one should use one’s phone. I think it is valid however you or anyone else decide/decides to use/not use your phone.
Now onto your question in item #3: I’ve actually never heard of orange triaminic until you mentioned it in this blog post.
As for your question at the end of item #6: If you’re asking whether I’m in that kind of space right now, then no, I am not. If you’re asking whether I’ve been in that kind of space in the past, then my comment will likely become 1000 words long if I elaborate on that. So, it’s your call. Nevertheless, I do appreciate how you and Ms. Nicole MacPherson help each other with your 100 day Projects.
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment and for answering the questions from the post. I agree that everyone approaches screen time and phone use differently, and it’s helpful to hear how others think it through. I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond.
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I think I also need to keep in mind a very important fact that for you, not only do you need to write down the things that come randomly to mind, but you also need to write them into a blog post. If you write them down on a piece of paper first, you’ll need to then type them out again on a computer or a phone or an iPad. Or take a picture of what you wrote on paper first and then use the Optical Character Recognition OCR function to convert it into selectable text. In this case, it is more convenient and takes no more total screen time on the phone to write everything directly on the phone in the first place.
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6: Yes! I had the same this winter. Just too tired and no headspace to do anything creative… I think I kind of survived on making puzzles (that worked relaxing and was low focus) and watching bad reality shows :’ ) I really wanted to do more creative things… but I just couldn’t start. And when you’re in it, it sometimes feels like theres no end. I’m ‘out of it’ now a few weeks and I feel like a different person. Wish I could tell you what did the trick for me (still don’t know, sunshine?). But I guess it’s also different for everyone. I hope you click into gear soon!
8: This too! I do this and now that you wrote it down, I’m just realizing. Such a shame because I feel too that this keeps us away from our gut feeling maybe, of being drawn to a book. Thank you for the reminder to stop doing that : D
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I’m really glad I’m not the only one who’s felt like this! That winter tiredness and lack of creative energy can be rough. Puzzles and reality shows sound like a good way to keep things low-key when you just can’t focus.
It’s funny how sometimes the switch back to feeling like yourself happens without any clear reason — maybe a bit of sunshine or just time.
And yes, the whole Goodreads rating thing definitely makes me second guess what I’m drawn to. It’s a good reminder to trust our own gut more.
Here’s hoping we all find our groove again soon!
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Pancake batter in their omelets? Yuck.
I’ve never tried a 100 day project. It seems like it might inspire me but I also know that it seems overwhelming. I understand your situation.
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Right? I love pancakes — just not in my eggs.
I haven’t started yet either. I’m really struggling to stay focused on anything these days. Thanks so much for understanding. 😘
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I’m a reader but haven’t been into it lately. Part of it is because of building and moving, but most is because I can’t concentrate. The world is on fire, and I must stop listening to and watching the news. I’m sure I’ll snap back at some point. “Heaven Help Me”…I forgot about that song and it immediately was transported to the 80s! Love that song!
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Oh, friend, I relate so much to that feeling — the world being on fire and not being able to focus. My friend Rita and I were just talking about this in the comments on my last post, so you are definitely not alone.
And I love that you remember that song! It brings me right back to summer of 1989.
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I’m totally with you Kari in that I’m made seriously cross by those who don’t attribute quotations to their source. We can’t always get it right because some sayings have become mis-attributed in this manner previously. But do make an effort to not mislead – ‘cos it’s out and out plagiarism otherwise. What you’ve said about reading is how I approach any exhibition/gallery. So long as there is one thing to takeaway or which I like, maybe even love, it’s been a worthwhile experience. I think it’s a great way of looking at things. I cannot deny that I am a very tough critic of books in that I’m mean with the star ratings, but unless I rate a book below 3-stars (which is rare as dodo droppings) I do not consider it a waste of time – there’s always something you can take from a book. I more often find myself disappointed when I select a book based on the recommendation of other people, as there’s very few who share my preferred reading options but – as I said – I’m fussy and a bit of a critic! ;)
Speaking of books, I recently finished Johann Hari’s “Stolen Focus” where one of the many strands he talks about is brain wandering – in both its negative and positive form. I found the whole thing interesting, although I felt his attempt to insert himself into the discussion around ADHD was misplaced. I’ve not previously felt allowing my brain to wander was a bad thing, but there have been times recently when it’s not felt healthy, and not from the perspective of wasted time, but of having a negative impact on mood. From memory, he said something like (and I’m paraphrasing heavily) allowing your brain to wander when you’re in a poor headspace is likely to be unhelpful, whereas the reverse is true. I was a bit bummed by that TBH, ‘cos it did make sense. I hope we’re both soon in a place for positive mind wandering <3 <3 <3
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It really bothers me, because I feel like he worded it in a way that gave him room to claim he said something different — but really, it was exactly the same thing. Gah.
It’s a great way to look at other things, like you said! I love the idea of using that lens with art or even on a bad day. It kind of lives in the same neighborhood as the “little grateful things” practice. Even one tiny bright spot can make a tough day a little better.
I’ve become such a tough critic — partly thanks to Goodreads and its cursed rating system. I’ll be at the library or a bookstore and look up a book, and if it has under 4 stars, I won’t even consider it! I’m still a recovering Goodreads rating addict, so I’m trying to slowly wean myself off. But wow, it’s hard.
Negative brain-wandering is definitely not helpful. I’ve learned to yell at my ego when I start spiraling. It’s actually kind of fun now: “Bad ego! Stop being mean to me!” 😂
Here’s to more positive mind-wandering for us both, my friend. 😘
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I just heard that song this week and I LOVE IT SO MUCH. I didn’t know the back story regarding George. So cool. And, I miss him being on the planet with us; such a loss.
I do read reviews, but I try not to let people sway me too much on books. They’re so subjective. The books, anyway. People can be jerks. 🤣
Surely I had triaminic, but I can’t tell you that I enjoyed it.
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Isn’t it great? I miss him too. There’s a really good impersonator of him—I think he’s from London as well. I’ll try to find him and share it here. He looks and sounds so much like George.
People can be jerks.
LOL—I think the association with being sick is a big reason so many didn’t like it.
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