Before I begin, I want to wish my Dad a Happy Birthday today! I love that one of my favorite posts to write is being published on one of my favorite human’s big day. I love you so much, Poppy! 🙂
This month’s post is in the Filipino language, Tagalog, in honor of November being the anniversary month of my friendship with Rebecca! Twenty-five years ago this month, she and I began working in the same department at Kohl’s and the rest, as they say, is history.
Her friendship has been a constant in my life and her love, loyalty, and kindness are a huge reason why I am the person I am today.
So you have her to blame.
Ang Cure at hindi ako hindi nagsasalita tungkol sa mga meds
(The Cure and no, I am not talking about meds)
I was in my mid-forties when I became a fan of the band The Cure.
It came to a head while I was writing the screenplay because I would channel my teenage angst via the New Wave channel on Pandora and they play a shit ton of The Cure on there. By the way, it feels weird to say The Cure in the middle of a sentence. Kind of like saying The Ohio State University.
Anyhoo, I wasn’t cool enough to pull off The Cure in the 80s but I was much cooler in the 90s, so I became a fair-weather fan.
But now I want to see them in person and sing along to all the songs.
Even the deep, heavy, brooding ones that I couldn’t understand in 1988.
What band were you not cool enough for in high school?
Ang facebook ay mabuti para sa isang bagay
(Facebook is good for something)
I have mentioned many times before how I don’t really like Fakebook (ahem, Facebook) but I do love me some Facebook Marketplace.
If you don’t know what Facebook Marketplace is, head here to read all about my obsession with it.
Because of Marketplace, I got a coffee table I love, a lamp that illuminates our entire basement, and just recently, a new chandelier for our dining room.
That chandy, by the way, cost us $15! It was originally from Birch Lane (think a pricier Pottery Barn) for $234. Long story short, we got it from a store that has been going out of business for three years. DON’T ASK ANY QUESTIONS JUST ENJOY THE DEALS.
But we wouldn’t have found this thing of beauty if it weren’t for Facebook and their Marketplace.
So, I haven’t been on Facebook much over the past month. It wasn’t like I was taking a stand against anything other than for my inner peace. I have long had a love-hate-detest relationship with Facebook and in fact, in 2011 left Facebook completely, deleting my account for a solid three months.
I went back eventually but it never felt amazing to me. Am I oversharing? Am I being too needy? Why am I so worried when I don’t get enough likes on a post?
Listen, I have searing anxiety and low self-esteem. Facebook is a really bad thing for that combination (ie: me), so I decided to take the app off of my phone six weeks ago.
I originally wanted to delete my account but I do like Facebook for homeschool support groups, plus Anna said if I deleted the account, all of those great memories in Time Hop would go away not only for me but also for her and for Ella when she someday inevitably joins Facebook.
Oh and don’t forget Marketplace!
But since taking the app off of my phone, I have seen some improvements in my self-esteem. I am less anxious. I have more time and because of that, I am more present. I am not worried about every little thing. I am not as stressed. I don’t do things or take pictures with Facebook in mind. (See: live in the moment)
Before this, I was on Facebook hourly (sometimes every half hour) as a mindless impulse while waiting for an appointment, or when I wasn’t able to sleep in the middle of the night, or even when I was on a car ride with a car full of people.
Now I am only on it once a day, only on my laptop, and I feel better.
I am not saying this is for everyone but for me? It was a deposit in my emotional savings account.
P.S.- This change means I no longer share any of my blog posts to Facebook, so if you were following me there before, you might want to subscribe to get posts in your inbox (email me to ask how) or follow me on Twitter where I do share my posts weekly.
May nakakaala ba kay Shmoo?
(Does anyone remember Shmoo?)
I read somewhere about remembering morning cartoons when you were a child and it made me think of Shmoo. Does anyone remember this show? It was primarily in the early 80s, I believe.
I loved Shmoo when I was growing up but he got lost among the Scooby Doo’s and Smurfs, which aired at the same time.
Then I found this gem:
Thank the Lord for Google.
Oh and look at how long the video is.
The month that Rebecca and I began our friendship.
It doesn’t seem like it’s possible that it has been 25 years.
In honor of our friendship-a-versary, here are some of the things we were doing, eating, wearing, and listening to during that month.
Our President was Bill Clinton.
Boyz II Men had two number one songs this exact month: I’ll Make Love to You and On Bended Knee.
Friends, Beverly Hills 90210, Seinfeld and Mad About You were the shows we were watching.
We didn’t have cell phones but some people did have pagers (my brother was one of them) but if we wanted to get together, we had to call each other on a landline phone.
We didn’t have DVR and actually had to watch shows as they aired or videotape them right before they aired. I remember having to work while a certain 90210 episode aired and had my fiance go to my parent’s house to tape it because no one else was home. How convoluted was that?
We wore CK One perfume (thanks to Rebecca); I had a friend who got the Rachel cut this year but I couldn’t because I was growing out my hair for wedding #1, and Forrest Gump and The Lion King were two movies in the theaters.
As far as the style in 1994, I personally wore a lot of men’s looking shoes I got on clearance at Old Navy (which was a BRAND NEW store that opened near where we lived), lots of flowy floral dresses, and floppy hats were the rage as well.
As I was writing this, I had a memory pop into my head of this gold/ rust chenille sweater that Rebecca and I bought at Kohl’s (with our discounts AND on sale!) and pairing them with black palazzo pants because Rebecca had recently watched the Meg Ryan/Andy Garcia movie When a Man Loves a Woman and Meg wore that exact outfit and she looked stunning….even while playing an alcoholic.
Also, I want it to be stated that I wanted to be Janeane Garafalo for all of 1994 and part of 1995, if only for her outfits in the movie Reality Bites (THANK YOU, ANI WINK WINK).
Courtesy of Buzzfeed
I mean, COME ON.
Oh, and shoe boots were SO popular this year that I had two pairs; one for work and one for bar hopping, duh.
Oh hey, guess whose parents were having lots of sex this year? Justin Bieber, Halsey, Harry Styles, and Dakota Fanning.
Upon googling “food trends in 1994”, the low-fat trend came up first, which thinking back I do remember eating quite a bit of because of impending
doom wedding. Especially those damn Snackwells cookies. I can still taste those cardboardy devil’s food cookies. Devil’s food, indeed.
But that didn’t stop me from eating an entire sleeve. WHAT? THEY’RE LOW-FAT.
Also, according to the Rachel Ray website, Caesar Salad made a huge comeback? I don’t remember that at all.
But it’s actually a fun read, so head here to see more food trends per each year.
I personally remember going to Ruby Tuesday’s a lot with Rebecca this year for some reason and I always got this amazing grilled chicken salad.
Man, I miss Ruby Tuesday’s.
I was really into chicken in 1994 for some reason.
Also Rebecca’s egg rolls.
So many fun memories……so glad I have Rebecca to thank for so many of them.
Happy Nobyembre, everyone!