Anxiety, Life

Good News in the Midst of So Much Bad

Today is April 1st which means the first day of birthday month, bitches. No exclamation point because birthday month also means quarantine month which also means my actual birthday (the 28th) is going to be spent in quarantine. But I am actually not as sad as I thought I would be. I just want everyone to stop dying, to stop getting sick, to stay home and be decent human beings. THAT is what I want for my birthday this year.


I can only read so many articles about how bad this pandemic will get, how many more people will die, how we didn’t prepare enough or even know enough before it becomes less about being informed and more about watching a bad accident.

Gapers delay.

That is what we are going through right now.

Sitting on the highway of life dealing with so many gapers delays that it makes our mental health take a tailspin.

I should state that I am in no way trivializing this by comparing it to a gaper’s delay. I am simply referring to all of the media that is thrown at us currently and I can’t stop and watch it all as I need to protect my mental wellbeing.

I recently wrote in the comments of my friend Rita’s blog that:

I need to stay in the thick of it and not think of when it will end or if it will end. I cannot think this way or it will destroy me.

We need good news more than ever and we just aren’t getting enough of it, so I am sharing this post because I think you need it just as much as I do.


 

Here is what is saving me currently.

I am staying up a little later than I used to and in turn, sleeping in more. I like this new routine for some reason and that makes me happy.

I have always been thankful for the sun but never more until the past two weeks when it was the only hopeful thing outside my window. I now get why dogs and cats sit in sunspots, as they are giving me life.

 

 

I am appreciative that I have a basement to go to that is painted yellow because it feels like daytime down there all of the time. I value having three bathrooms in our home. I am lucky to have three floors in my house that can give us corners to steal away from each other.

I am also appreciative that we aren’t alone in our home. That I have both of my girls under our roof. That my husband, even though he is out there working in it, has a job and we have benefits because of that job. I am thankful that we have three pets that keep us distracted daily and also give me other lives to take care of. All of these things I took for granted daily and today, I am eternally thankful for all of them.

 

Shallow Focus Photography of Bird

 

I am noticing, for the first spring in many springs, the grass as it slowly gets greener. The buds that are peeking out of the trees and bushes. The little green sprouts coming out of the ground.  The birds singing, chirping, squawking every morning. In fact, my alarm clock is now the birds outside my window. Were they always there? I suppose they were.

I am talking to my mom and hearing her voice on the phone daily. We don’t usually have many new things to talk about but I get to hear my mom’s (and sometimes dad’s too) voice on the phone every day and I appreciate that so much because I know a lot of people can’t do that and wish they could.

 

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I saw the above quote within an article about the flu quarantine of 1918. It was a direct quote from someone who was going through it at that time and it really sticks with me. In fact, I have thought of this quote every day during the lockdown.

I am checking in on friends and they are checking in on me daily. It feels so much deeper than texts from before all of this happened because we are all genuinely concerned about each other.

 

My friend’s son wrote this note to me a month ago and it has been sunshine on gray days.

 

My mom said more of her friends are on their Facebook accounts lately because of being shut in and that makes her so happy which in turn makes me happy. Also? Other people realizing how important the human connection is now more than ever, is something to stop and marvel at.

I have gotten closer to friends and family whom I had gotten away from in our lives and every time we Facetime or text or sent each other social media messages, it makes me realize that if it weren’t for this virus, we wouldn’t be doing that.

Because of the essential/non-essential orders in place, my husband’s hours were cut by a few hours each night which means he is now home for dinner every night of the week. Before this, he was only home two nights a week for dinner. So the four of us eat dinner around the table every single night and it has become the highlight of each day. Ella made a comment the other night at dinner that we wouldn’t have Anna at home with us every night for dinner if she was at college and that thanks to the virus, now we do. I couldn’t have loved a statement more.

 

Two People Walking in the Forest

 

I have a private Facebook page where everyone there can share funny and happy stuff. I’ve been sharing stuff several times a day, whenever it comes to me and others are doing so now as well. It has become a lovely place for me to be. I used to hate Facebook but now I love it so much. In fact, I have laughed harder during this quarantine than I have in a long time because of my tribe in that group.

 

 

I am becoming way more resourceful and much less wasteful than I ever have been. I am careful with soap, paper products, and even food. And I appreciate a good meal more than I have ever in my entire life.

 

He/she looks in every once in a while. Pecks on the glass. Especially when a television show he/she likes is on.

 

There is a robin that keeps coming to our family room window daily and looking in. She/he has pecked on the window, chirped into the house, or just sits on the bush and stays for a couple of minutes. A cardinal came to our yard the other day and a mourning dove was sitting on our front porch after a long walk last week. I am so in love with all of the birds that are surrounding us.

 

He/she checking up on us on a different day

 


 

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Ella said to me the other day, “you know mom, I never appreciated seeing Mamie and Papa as much as I do now and it makes me want to cry. “

You could say that people are forced to get farther from each other, physically at least and you would be right. But really, we are getting closer and no one is focusing on that right now, understandably so. We are focusing on how the virus is tearing us apart and what it is taking from us, but in fact, it’s truly doing quite the opposite in many cases, and that is what I am choosing to focus on today.

What is saving you currently? 

33 thoughts on “Good News in the Midst of So Much Bad”

  1. I like that note on the fridge. It’s perfectly inspiring. I think that it’s interesting how the older generations are suddenly more interested in FB. It’s been there all along, but suddenly they feel a need for it, finally finding a way to embrace the concept of connecting online. What’s saving me currently? Spring weather is finally here this week. My husband is working from home which keeps me calm. Writing my blog posts, goofy as they, keep me focused on contributing something positive to the world right now. [That is if you consider goofy to be positive.]

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    1. We aren’t having spring weather yet but I feel like once that happens here, it will definitely help.
      And yes to having the husband home. Mine doesn’t have the ability to work from home but when he is here on his days off, I am so much more relaxed.

      Your blog posts are helping me, that’s for sure. Keep writing. 🙂

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  2. I have actually pulled away from Facebook (as has my mom and most of my family). Unlike most people gawking at an accident from the side of the road I tend to turn away… so unlike most people I shelter myself and my family from the bulk of the news, I don’t go on Facebook because I don’t want to hear anymore about what we should/ could do, how much worse it might/will get… even if there are some really funny memes. I am definitely finding solace in nature and loving all these mini signs of spring. Even if the ground is covered by frost this morning.

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    1. I agree wholeheartedly with this. I hate that I’m comparing the loss of life to a gaper’s delay and I may go back in and edit that because I am not trivializing it at all. But I don’t need to hear the personal stories of families who have lost their entire family to this, as horrific as that is. It feels very much like the news trying to sell ratings instead of honestly caring about those families. And that’s what I’m talking about when I’m referring to gapers delay.

      Take care of you and yours.❤️

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  3. This is a beautiful post in every way, but I especially love the photos. I love seeing beauty. More so now that I’m stuck inside…the photos are welcome nourishment for my eyes. And your group is the only reason I get on FB anymore. My normally docile feed has gone bananas. People are changing through this. Uglies are coming out. The good news is we’ve got nothing but time to sit at home and deal with our ugly selves before heading back out into the world.

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    1. Boy, do you have that right. I have unfollowed over 45 to 50 people this week alone on Facebook. Let me tell you, it has made a world of difference.

      That Facebook group is saving my soul daily. It gives me reasons to find things that are good to share in that group and that is happiness jar worthy DAILY.❤️

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  4. I just wrote a post about the positive things I am experiencing in this – it will post next week. Super grateful for the ping pong table Santa brought. Dear God – where would we be without that? I am ready for spring to hit and I think that will life spirits a ton. Mini and I just went for our walk. A little bit crisp, but perfect for walking. I am checking the forecast daily and early next week I see 70’s – bring it baby!

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  5. This post. This is everything that is right with the world right now. Thanks for the tears. The calling of your Mom part hit me, as I feel that I used to take those conversations for granted and oh, how I wish I could call Bev and have a conversation about nothing.
    The birds, the notes, the phone calls, all of it means SO much. I’m feeling so much of this myself. A facetime conversation with Linds, while we’re both cooking dinner, fills my heart.
    I LOVE that you and your family are finding so many gifts during this.

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  6. Last night my kids played soccer outside until it was almost dark. Jesse and I sat at our kitchen table and watched them. No fights. No bickering. We’re all pitching in every Saturday to clean the house (a job that used to be reserved just for me while they were at work/school). We’re reading and playing catch and stomping around in the muddy woods because it’s ACTUAL spring (unlike some years at this time). I’ve read more books in the last two weeks than I have in some months. It’s nice to list off the happy.

    (Please send me the link to your private FB group. I’d love to check it out.)

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    1. We were outside today for five hours straight and it was glorious. The windows are open, the sun is shining and all is right in our little corner. We needed this day.

      I’m so glad you had that kind of day yesterday. ❤️

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  7. Well, I’m late to the party because I’m back at work again, and I just have to say it was so nice to read this just now. Late Monday night our department of education announced that we have to provide full distance learning for all students and we have to figure out how to do that in the next two weeks. All I’m going to say about that is we’ve got kids who don’t even have wifi, much less devices, and…oh, let’s just leave it at: I’ve finished the last two days in meltdown.

    So, it was really good to see this post. I love your photos. I’m glad you’re finding the good and the joy. (I’m still doing that, too. It’s there.) And happy birthday month. My kids were supposed to be born in April, and I remember more than one person telling me what a great month that is to have a baby. Glad you have your whole family close.

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    1. I am so glad this made you happy. I have sad days a lot more than I would like to admit. I have scared days too, especially because Mike is out there five days a week, 12 hours a day, working in the public. But I can’t reside there or it WILL destroy my mental wellbeing.

      Anna’s apartment complex for next year at college is still requesting the parents to pay rent monthly starting yesterday. With all that is going on, they don’t give a fuck if you have a job, if you have income, if the world is falling apart. Your comment about kids not having wifi made me think about this. We don’t have unlimited income and my husband could lose his job any day now (another stress), so I can’t imagine how those who are struggling, even more, are hanging in there. This became a very unhappy comment, didn’t it?

      You aren’t alone. That is the takeaway. But I need to smile. I really, really need to smile. So I will keep on sharing happy shit until this is all over.

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      1. Yes yes and yes. I don’t have classes of students, but I support teachers who do, and they are so worried about our kids, many of whom were in really hard situations before all of this hit. (Which means I’m worried about the kids and the teachers.) I am just worried about us asking anything of families that will add to this time that is so damn hard for so many people in so many different ways. Just like asking yours to pay rent right now, for an apartment for next fall, is only adding to the stress. I’m especially worried about families dealing with addictions and domestic violence.

        Blergh. No, not happy comments. And FB has already made me cry twice this morning, so I guess I need to stay away from there, too. Just gonna keep coming back here, which is a happy place. 🙂

        Take care. Sending you all lots of love from Oregon.

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  8. That is the sweetest note! ❤️

    I’d say Facebook is keeping me sane as well. Shockingly! The memes, uplifting posts, and cute pictures of kids are everything right now. My two besties and I message each day, but the three of us aren’t working and are at home, and the conversations are getting shorter and shorter. Blah.

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