Today is our 14th wedding anniversary, not really a “monumental” anniversary but any anniversary you can celebrate is monumental and I think now more than ever, we realize this.
We have been together almost 18 years this October but dating is always the easier part of the relationship, so those years almost don’t count, do they?
Mike has to work today, so I plan on going for a walk with the dog, doing homeschool, maybe a couple of loads of laundry, might get takeout for dinner because it is a special day even though it just feels like another day.
But on Sunday and Tuesday (his days off), we celebrated in our own way.
We went for a walk along Lake Michigan.
We took down the trampoline that had been in this exact spot for almost six years and gave it to our neighbors who have smaller kids. We decided that since this summer meant more time at home, that we would create a social distancing style fire pit.
See that fence? It might become a drop-down bar with our neighbors. Of course, I can’t drink right now, so that should be FUN. Stay tuned.
We had a date night picnic in one of our favorite little towns. Curbside pickup pizza from a favorite restaurant followed by a picnic in a local park. We listened to our favorite music on my phone, the sounds of laughter from the tennis courts adjacent and people watched other people walking, picnicking, being outside, enjoying the delicious simple things.
We walked around the neighborhoods in our favorite little town, all very expensive homes that we would never be able to afford, but we dreamt out loud about how fun it would be to live here and walk to so many of the places we love to visit.
The only thing that was different visiting our favorite little town were the masks, the lack of people out and about but we made a comment about how nice it was to have the town to ourselves. It made for a lovely date night. Coronavirus-edition.
I found a box of our wedding things in the basement when trying to look for a picnic blanket and went through it for the first time in years. It was so much fun to look through the things I planned for our big day, magazine articles, an extra boutonniere, response cards of who came and who didn’t.
Ellie tried on the wedding shoes that I bought from Target. I was SO excited to find wedding shoes that were comfortable at a low price because let’s be honest, they were off my feet by the first dance.
She also tried on my wedding dress, bought at a local dress shop for under $200.
I was so happy to marry this man that I didn’t care how much the dress or the shoes were. That dress was in the basement and I never got it cleaned. So when I took it out of the garment bag, it had remnants of lipstick, cake, and beer spilled on me from hugs and kisses of my friends and family.
Sigh, hugs and kisses.
We went for a long walk near the Chicago River yesterday. He always jokes that he is being dragged on these soul-saving walks but he secretly loves them. I mean, he gets to spend time with me! What’s not to love?
As the kids get older, we are spending more of our free time together alone and I am realizing how much I love this man and how much he loves me. It used to scare the shit out of me, thinking about life without the kids being by our sides as much. They have become so much a part of our relationship that I worried at one time about how we would be as a couple once they got older and grew away from us more.
I am learning that I really like him and he really likes me. There is honestly no one in the world I would rather spend the rest of my life with.
I am so glad he is on my side, for better or worse, sweaty walks and all.