I am currently reading “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo, and these were his words for me this morning (I like to think the author is talking to me):
From the agonies of kindergarten, when we first were teased or made fun of in the midst of all our innocence, we all have struggled in one way or another with hiding what is obvious about us.
No one plans this. It is not a conspiracy, but rather an inevitable and hurtful passage from knowing only ourselves to knowing the world. The tragedy is that many of us never talk about it, or never get told that our “green hair” is beautiful, or that we don’t need to hide, no matter what anyone says on the way to lunch. And so, we often conclude that to know the world we must hide ourselves.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. It is an ancient, unspoken fact of being that blackmail is only possible if we believe that we have something to hide. The inner corollary of this is that worthless feelings arise when we believe, however briefly, that who we are is not enough.
I discovered TikTok last month. I love it. It makes me laugh and occasionally it makes me cry too.
So I found a TikTok from a woman who inspired the podcast I am sharing today. She discusses how at 65 she feels invisible most days. But this invisibility began when she was 50.
Is this resonating with any of you?
Men too. I don’t want my male readers to feel left out. I am interested in your thoughts as well.
I am sharing a podcast today in place of a post. Discussing invisibility within perimenopause. I’m also sharing two symptoms I experienced during perimenopause that are often left out of the books and doctor’s visits: brain fog and lack of motivation.
Listen in and as always, I would love a discussion in the comments after you’re done listening.