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What Is This Soul Homework You Speak Of?

Soul homework came to me from my oldest daughter, dropping a little nugget about wishing to learn how to “manifest” one day. She might have heard about it as a TikTok trend during the pandemic? Or maybe she talked about it with a college roommate at a bar before this pandemic even started?

I tease because it was nothing deeper than that, lest you thought I flew to the desert and meditated on it for 48 hours in a yurt.

I called for a transformation and the act of manifesting interested me.

Why? Because last summer, my life had become chaotic and painful.

I wasn’t yet on my antidepressant (something I didn’t know that I desperately needed); I was still in full-blown hot flashy, bloated-ass perimenopause; I was getting daily horrifying migraines AND I was on a restrictive migraine-friendly diet; which meant I was bitchy because I was hungry. 

And of course, there were the depressing daily current events of the glorious land we call the US of A. 

 

I needed a fix.

So off to Amazon I went and typed in “manifest” and I plucked out the first book that popped up.

 

Sarah Prout should thank Amazon for good search engine optimization.

 

This book introduced the soul homework for me inadvertently.

The universe book led me to another book by revealing it within its pages.

I scribbled the name of the next book, The Magic Path of Intuition, by Florence Scovel Shinn, and instantly placed a hold at my local library.

Florence’s book then pointed me to another book, so I scribbled the next book down and held that one at the library. I should mention that the next book wasn’t Florence’s recommendation, but the person who wrote the Foreword of her book.

The point is, it doesn’t matter in what form the books come to you. It was this maze of books that were revealing themselves to me and building an experience that was extraordinary.

Each book was opening my mind to new and fascinating ways of reasoning. I wasn’t always complying with everything each book was teaching me, but I was hearing different views, growing into a stronger version of myself. I was facing my fears, challenging myself, and trying to broaden my manner of thinking.

I assumed I was open-minded before I started doing this soul homework; I was not. This has helped me to be more patient and to understand that we are all learning, and even as I compose this, some of you might not accept this process I am writing about.

And that is okay!

I have had several people message me to ask me how they could do this in their lives, so I thought it might be easier to write a post about it. I am including this in my book as part of a chapter on “unbecoming”; letting go of parts of yourself that you may have felt you had to be. Part of perimenopause is surrendering your period, a huge “unbecoming”, so it felt appropriate to include this journey in my book.

 

White Spiral Notebook Beside Green Ceramic Mug
Courtesy/ Anna (via Pexels)

 

I conceived the term “soul homework” because my soul had become overwrought by the events that had been happening. I hadn’t heard the term before, I just made it up. It was homework for my soul; the best kind of homework. 

Soul homework step 1- be open

That’s it!

Just be open to trying something different.

 

 

 

Soul homework step 2- get a notebook

This part of my soul homework is optional but has developed into my morning routine.

One of my friends told me about a therapist who talked about having a journal to “dump” (not write) all of her thoughts into each day. She called it her “withholding journal” because a lot of what we withhold can manifest as pain.

This is not the journaling where you want to look back someday to read your thoughts. This is getting rid of your thoughts. 

Every day since November 1st, I have been scribbling thoughts from the past and present down in my spiral notebook. Some days I have four pages worth, others I have nothing. Some days, I write in the morning. Other days, I write throughout the day.

It’s like going to the bathroom for your thoughts, you let go of the waste. Get rid of what you don’t need.

You choose how to handle the pages when you’re done emptying your thoughts. You can either keep the notebook until it’s full or you can rip each page out when you’re done.

There are no rules.

See? The best kind of homework.

 

 

 

Soul homework step 3- find “the” book

Your book can be any book you choose it to be!

An excellent place to start is by choosing an area of your life you want to make a change.

The only recommendation I have is to use your local library as much as possible. I have used my local library for all of my books and have saved so much money in this process. I haven’t had to purchase one book doing all of this soul homework. I also know that most libraries are not charging fees and are extending the renewal times for books because of the pandemic, so this is the perfect time to check out library books!

You can use my recommendations here if you’d like to get yourself started. If you end up doing soul homework of your own, please come back and share your book suggestions and I will link to them within my page. I would love to start a soul homework book club if anyone would be interested.

 

My soul homework station is the first thing you see when you come in the front door. (Book credit- The Law of Divine Compensation by Marianne Williamson)

 

Soul homework step 4-find a space

I would recommend setting up space in your home that is for your soul homework time. If you give yourself a space to do this work, you will make it a habit.

If you live in an apartment or a modest dwelling, I understand this isn’t workable. But if you don’t share a bedroom with someone, that might be a perfect space. If you share your bedroom, maybe use your side of the nightstand.

I am ballsy and use my entire living room.

This area is next to my desk but I love I am showing them that caring for yourself in this way is natural. Like, doesn’t everybody have a soul homework location in their home? 😉

 

 

 

Soul homework step 5- find the time 

I am now four months into my soul homework. I do it one hour every day, seven days a week. It is the one part of my day that I look forward to the most. It’s like I am giving myself therapy each day; like yoga for my soul.

I wish this for all of you, which is why I am sharing it with you today. If I could bottle up how I am feeling right now and sell it, I wouldn’t. I would give it to you because I want all of us to feel this way. We’ve been feeling like shit for way too long.

Someone once said to me “must be nice to make time to do something like that” in reply to me making time for myself. I responded, “it is nice, thank you for noticing!”

Maybe your job is your self-care? Maybe watching Netflix for hours at a time is your self-care? Maybe spending time on social media is your self-care? Maybe shopping is your self-care? That is okay! Just own it. And maybe don’t make others feel bad for making time for themselves? When I left Facebook in August, I wanted to use the time I was scrolling my Facebook feed on something else. I now use that time doing my soul homework.


Whether you do the soul homework is not my business. But I hope you can take a little time for yourself each day.

I know you see this mantra in your feeds, but I am going to say it here too; you are important. We’ve all been through a tough year. We all deserve to show ourselves love each day in whatever form that looks like that is appropriate for you.

22 thoughts on “What Is This Soul Homework You Speak Of?”

  1. I love your term “soul homework” and that you’ve taken over your living room whilst doing it. This is the soothing balm I need after this last rough year. I’ll be finding the time today to start my own soul homework practice, thank you very much. A great idea, me thinks.

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  2. Excellent post, Kari! Love the reminder to do soul homework, and to use the library. It IS nice to make time for yourself. Something more women need to give themselves permission to do, so they don’t feel the need to snark at others with a “must be nice!” As females, we are trained practically from birth to put others’ needs ahead of our own. I know I was. By the time in the day I felt I could take time for me, there was no energy left to do so. I wasn’t doing myself or my loved ones any favours by perpetually running on empty…but it took many years to realize this and a few more years to really put it into practice. I like the idea of the withholding journal – it reminds me of Morning Pages (from Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way). Thank you!

    Deb

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    1. YES! To all of this.
      I will look up the Morning Pages! Thank you for the suggestion!

      That’s another thing I want to point out, I have found so many amazing books and therapists from bloggers, friends, Twitter and Instagram.

      I found you thanks to Ally sharing your post on Twitter! I am so thankful for that. ❤️

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  3. I think you’ve got soul, sister. So glad that you have found the time and made the time for yourself. So key. I’m often tied to my ‘list’ of stuff to get done, but ‘me time’ is not on the list. I do make time though for prayer, which gives me guidance. I also find it very healing.

    I do love my library, but I would love it more if they were forgiving fines at the moment. Not happening.

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    1. Prayer is meditation! So that is totally me time. 🙂

      I am about to call your library up and tell them a thing or two! LMAO. I think we talked about this before last year. I mean, who is returning books on time during a pandemic? 😉

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  4. It is so so so important for us to carve out time for ourselves each day– for any age and gender but it seems especially important for moms to do that as we are so bad at saying no to anything but ourselves.

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  5. Ah, someone mentioned Julia Cameron’s book, The Artist’s Way. Definitely a classic! I’ve had that book on my shelves for years. Others I have read and recommend: Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle; A Year by the Sea by Joan Anderson; and The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. One I haven’t read yet but I have: Journal to the Self: 22 Paths to Personal Growth by Kathleen Adams.

    xoxo

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  6. Kari you are a Treasure! Your description of finding your soul books? That is similar to how I found your blog (and some other wonderful blogs) the past year or two. Have you ever taken a trip just because? That was me – blog wandering blindly searching for something…. better, kinder, broader than the blogger I’d read for years. I randomly found you and a few others – wonderful writers who are kind enough to share their lives and thoughts and (equally delightful) to be kind & generous to the folks (like me) who pop in with comments.

    I’m eternally grateful I found you.

    Gonna try your soul searching book read and writing (dump that poo out!) exercise. The quote you posted the other day has been percolating inside me. Time to see what pours out.

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  7. I went through a similar time 14 years ago–it felt like everything was connected and one thing led to another and books were stepping stones on a path. I felt that my portal to some kind of power was the new book shelf at my library; it seemed to almost magically have the next thing I needed to read. I learned so much then that carries me today. I’m so glad you are finding what you need.

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    1. I love that you had a similar journey!
      I didn’t mention this in the post but I had fallen away from reading over the past five years. I had maybe read two or three books over the past five years and I had only been to my local library for the girls’ school projects or homeschooling. So this soul homework has reinstated my love for the library all over again.

      Now I am upset that I didn’t mention this in the post. I will add it to the book. 🙂

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  8. You’ve coined a beautiful phrase: Soul Homework. I like it. A lot.
    I love that you purge the bad shit out in the written word. Shit purging. Shitting out the negativity. So many phrases here that work.
    You’ve made such a turn-around in the short time I’ve known you, it’s inspiring to say the least.
    I tried my hand at journaling years ago, but I suck at it. I’m not consistent enough. (so I blog!)
    But this type of soul homework might just work for me. Again, not on a daily basis, but as needed perhaps?
    But, I’m a true believer in ‘me time’, self-care is doing what we NEED to do for ourselves. I had someone criticize me years ago with some sort of “oh, you have too much time on your hands” in regards to something fun I was working on for myself. BITCH, PLEASE.

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    1. Shit purging is SO good. Almost better than soul homework!
      I am not good at journaling either! This is why this kind of shit purging is so much better. I learned that thoughts are liars which is why this is so good. Getting rid of those liars. By the way, that show you recommended? In and Of Itself? It tied in PERFECTLY with the thoughts are liars mentality.

      As needed is perfect! Do it as you need it. Like I told Rita in the comments, in the five years I was in perimenopause I read maybe two or three books? So this has been an amazing journey if only to get me reading books again. If I stop tomorrow, I feel like it was enough. But I won’t stop because I love doing it so much. The day it feels like a chore, I will quit.

      BITCH PLEASE, will be my response from now on. YES!

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  9. Just a quick de-lurk to say thank you for the self-care encouragement and book recs. I’ve fallen out of my morning contemplation routine in recent months. A nourishing book may be just what I need to restart my routine. I’ve requested Ms Williamson’s book from our local library.

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  10. Well I have a space now, and nothing but time, and since starting to read this post I know know what manifesting even is…so I suppose I am running out of excuses!

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  11. No surprise, I am reading this post at a time when I need it the most, and am most open to digesting it. I’ve been thinking about this exact thing for a while now, and my whole mind mind, body, and spirit has been begging me to make the time to do it. I need to purge the thoughts, I need to read the books, and I need to give myself the hour. Thank you for writing this! And for being an amazing human being.

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    1. So I just wrote a post today about mental health and I am now understanding that not only did I need this soul homework for me, I also needed it for my girls. To help them with tough conversations and with life in general. I would have crumbled with these conversations before; old me wouldn’t have been able to deal, for one reason or another. Now I can because of all I have learned about myself. Who knew that you could gain this much insight from library books? Well, that and also being on a kickass antidepressant for the first time in my life. My own mental health was screaming for it for many years. It’s like I finally feel at home in my own body for the first time in my life. 😉

      PURGE THOSE THOUGHTS, Ani. I swear TG, I do this daily. If you read some of the shit I wrote in there, you would laugh at me. But it’s all good! Get that shit out of my brain.

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