Life, Menopause, My Book, Writing

Podcast #42- Chapter Three- Not My Mother’s Menopause

80's Names| My Name is on the List| Grieving A Grace Full Life

Talking about:  -names that were popular in the 1970s and 1980s -going over a list of names that are becoming less popular (hint-mine is one of them) -sharing how I've been feeling lately — This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast.
  1. 80's Names| My Name is on the List| Grieving
  2. Navigating
  3. Not My Mother's Menopause- Chapter Eight
  4. Not My Mother's Menopause- Chapter Seven
  5. Not My Mother's Menopause- Chapter Six

I was in my third year of perimenopause, and I was plagued with migraines, anxiety attacks, vertigo, and emotions I didn’t even realize existed. I’d been without a period for six months and I hoped that I was finally out of the woods. 

I could see the clearing. I could almost taste freedom. 

I was at Olive Garden with a friend for lunch when I felt a familiar gush after laughing. 


Oh, HELL no. 

I excused myself and went to the restroom, where I considered grabbing a bottle of their Moscato on the way and guzzling it in the stall if there was even a drop of blood on my underwear. 

I enter the stall and slide my underwear over my bulging hips when I see the familiar red stain. 


This chapter discusses the symptoms that caused me the greatest trouble. I left out anxiety and migraines since I’ll be delving into those topics in two forthcoming chapters. So there’s something to look forward to. 🙂

The complete chapter is available to read under the Menopause tab at the top of the blog.

Here is the book I mentioned in the sleep segment: Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker

For those of you who suffer from vertigo, here is the Epley Maneuver that I mentioned in the chapter:

What symptoms, if any, have caused the most concern for those of you who have gone through or are now going through perimenopause?

10 thoughts on “Podcast #42- Chapter Three- Not My Mother’s Menopause”

  1. So far I only get night sweats and hot flashes a few times a month but only at the very crack of dawn… so then I’m tired and irritable. LOL.


  2. I get hot flashes and night sweats when I drink red wine, which is A GREAT SADNESS. I’m still drinking red wine, because life should be enjoyed, and sometimes we have to pay a price for that enjoyment, but I’m doing it less frequently and in lesser quantities. Which, let’s face it, is probably a good thing. Also I have trouble sleeping just before my period, which used to come every few months and now comes every few weeks. What? Why! Anyway, it’s all part of the journey.

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    1. YES! That happened to me as well! Wine and coffee both triggered hot flashes, which was WONDERFUL news for someone who wished to cope with perimenopause using both of those substances. 🙂

      I believe that the symptoms of PMS and perimenopause are closely linked. This is a better analogy than “your perimenopause will look like your mother’s,” which has been the standard advice from gynecologists for decades.


  3. Loved the line about almost grabbing a bottle of Moscato on your way to the bathroom. Good stuff, Kari. Not surprised.

    Coach treated my grandma’s vertigo shortly after we got married. She thought he was a miracle worker. He’d only started his physical therapy training. She should see him now.

    My sleep sucks, sometimes. Menopause? Sometimes I think so and sometimes not. I had night sweats for awhile, but I don’t really have that anymore.

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    1. I should’ve grabbed that bottle; it would’ve smoothed out the bumpy ride.:)

      When I mentioned that therapy, I immediately thought of your husband! When I was in perimenopause, I went through three rounds of physical therapy. Twice for vertigo, once for migraines.

      I’m glad to hear your sleep isn’t bad!


  4. My dear friend. You’ve been through hell. I consider myself very lucky with my perimenopausal symptoms thus far. *knocking on wood*
    Speaking of crappy symptoms, I was fully awake from 2am to 6:45am. *sigh* That is never fun.
    Sleep is So Important for us; body and soul.

    The vertigo maneuver is interesting. I’ve had bouts of it before and always wondered WHY it happens. The Coach is dealing with it now too, but it seems to be getting better daily.

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    1. I would also wake up like that in perimenopause as well! But now that I’m on an antidepressant, I fall right back to sleep. It has certain disadvantages, but I’m enjoying the extra sleep I’m getting in menopause. It’s as if I’m making up for the five years of sleep I missed!

      I just read someplace about how sleep is akin to meditation and how we don’t realize how magical it is for everyone of us to slip into a trance every night. That altered my perspective on sleep. It also made me understand how soul-sucking it is not to sleep. Suz, you’re so right. It’s so important for both the body and the soul.

      Vertigo is so frustrating. I’m so glad he’s feeling better.

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