I’m learning to accept the less-than-ideal aspects of myself. One of them is that I have difficulty having conversations.
There are two aspects to this: I struggle with making eye contact, and I have to work hard to listen.
This has nothing to do with the other person being interesting. This is due to my desire to either interject with something interesting or to fill awkward silence.
I’m working on becoming a better listener.
To be clear, I’m not holding the conversation hostage; I simply want to listen better, pay more attention, and stay involved for a longer period of time.
In January, I discovered a Julia Cameron book that helped me get started on my listening journey:
I’ve learned about active listening, which is more about being engaged with what you’re listening to rather than just nodding along and saying “uh-huh.”
It keeps you front and center in the conversation, which might help bring someone to their senses if they make the conversation all about themselves.
Because, in my opinion, no one wants to be a conversation hog. I just don’t think we were given the proper tools. Again, this is something that could’ve been taught in high school BEFORE geometry. But I digress…
Do you have difficulty listening in conversations?